I’m Rachel! I’m a fun-loving, passionate about joyful relationships, don’t-take-myself-too seriously, disney lovin’, iced coffee drinkin’, creative woman who loves the Lord, my hubby, my kids, my family and friends, and this place!
Things I LOVE
Deep, meaningful conversations, ice-cream, anywhere hearing waves crash at the beach, laughing until my stomach hurts, junk journaling, traveling, seeing broken relationships restored, accountable women.
Can Live Without
Rude people, bratty children, living in NET (don’t know what that is, find out here), any kind of seafood, canned green beans, feeling defeated, the blame game.
Why I’m Glad You’re Here
I know what it’s like to be in a marriage that’s falling apart. As a matter of fact, I’ll bet I used to be you. I was angry, frustrated, hurt, broken, and hopeless. My dream of a beautiful marriage had become a terrible nightmare and I felt helpless to change it. I tried everything, read books, going to counseling, I cried out to God every night. Divorce was at my doorstep but you know what?!? There was JOY in the morning and I believe that for you, too!
My Story
My story starts way back when I was a little girl. My dream was always to be a wife and mother… my dreams came true but not without heartache and pain. Things weren't always hard, we had many joyous times but it seemed like it got bad all of a sudden but in reality it had been a slow fade of getting to that point.
It felt like a never ending rollercoaster of ups and downs in my marriage around the 14 year mark. I thought I was to be like Job in the Bible and that hell was just my cross to carry. I want to share, things are no longer like that for me, we’ve been married nearly 20 years now. And I believe wholeheartedly there can be freedom for you too, and for you to have a happy, JOYFUL marriage.
The gift of desperation brought me face to face with the book "The Empowered Wife" by Laura Doyle and these life-changing skills. After those several years of hell in our marriage, at the doorstep of divorce, I decided to read the book. I listened to it on audible in 4 days. I walked alongside a coach that stood for my greatness. This happy ending—or as I like to think of it, a new beginning— has been such a blessing!
The skills taught
me so much!
I learned
I get to
choose my
focus.
Like so many of us in hurting marriages, I thought it was my husband's job to make me happy. Being in that never ending hell cycle those past several years of marriage at that point, I didn’t grasp self-care. I didn’t grasp me being on my paper and him being in his. I didn’t understand why he wouldn’t do the right thing to save our marriage. And I certainly didn't understand how controlling I had become, I thought I was being a "good" wife... These transformative skills taught me something important...
I needed a change, which meant I had to change myself.
I found the courage to become dignified and accountable. I found out that it my was own responsibility for my happiness.
If I would have continued down that path of thinking it was all my husband's job, not dug into working on MYSELF via the skills, I have no doubt we’d be divorced by now. Something I couldn’t take with everything in me. I am a work in progress everyday. I make mistakes. I get to choose how I show up. I get to look and find the good or I can find the opposite. I can keep digging a pit of hell or I can keeping working on myself.
This work has impacted me so much I became a Certified Laura Doyle Relationship Coach. I desire to help hurting women in desperate marriages just like I was, who don't know what else to do. If you're reading this, to give YOU hope if your heart is broken. If you've cried out to God, if you just want to do whatever it takes to fix your marriage but don't know how.
I want you to know, there is HOPE! It will take work, dedication, prayer, surrender and more but I believe with my whole heart your vision and your marriage matters. My heart is to work with women who want to restore the peace, passion and playfulness in their relationship!
All of this happened...
With the Lord's strength and courage, I decided to take ownership of my life. I went ALL in on my vision. And I refused to let Satan have his way.
Want to work with me?
“So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Matthew 19:6
Lord, I thank you for my sister in Christ reading through this site today. I am not sure what she is going though but you Lord, you do. I ask you be with her now, help her to feel your peace and give her hope. -amen
Am I the right coach for you?
If you have a desire to work with a coach, I trust you are going to pick just the right certified relationship coach for you! If I am not her, I’d love to invite you to check out other certified independent coaches who’ve been trained on the six intimacy skills, just like I have and who love Jesus!